A generation ago, the boundaries of a relationship were mostly physical and social. Today a great deal of intimacy is negotiated in settings menus. Do we share our locations. Do we know each other's passcodes. Is it fine to read a notification that lights up on the table. These are new questions, and most couples are improvising the answers.
The first thing worth saying is that there is no single correct configuration. Some couples happily share live location and find it warm, a soft way of feeling accompanied through the day. Others find the same setting suffocating. Neither is wrong. What matters is not the setting but whether it was chosen together, out loud, rather than assumed, demanded, or installed in secret.
The danger sign is not sharing. It is coercion. A location shared freely is a gift. A location extracted as a condition, checked obsessively, or monitored without consent, is surveillance wearing the costume of closeness. The same feature can be tenderness or a leash depending entirely on how it arrived.
Boundaries also need to be allowed to change. What felt cosy in the giddy first months might feel confining a year in, and a healthy relationship lets someone say "I would like my location off now" without it being treated as a confession. Consent is not a one-time signature. It is a standing invitation to renegotiate.
If any of this is live in your relationship right now, our piece on trust pairs well with this one, and our FAQs tackle the awkward practical bits.
The winking irony of a site like this is that it dramatises the very thing healthy couples handle with a boring, wonderful conversation. You do not need an app to know where your partner stands. You need to ask, listen, and believe them. The best boundary is the one you drew together, in words, on purpose.